Do you know what your love language is? If not, read this post for a brief overview on each of the love languages and why it’s important to know both yours and your spouse’s! Understanding love languages can turn a good marriage into a great marriage.

Great Marriage Tip 4:

I’m a quality time girl.

What I mean is this: I feel loved when someone spends time with me. When they sit and talk with me about things that are important to them. When they put down their phone, turn off the television, and spend time getting to know me without distractions.

My husband is a words of affirmation guy.

He feels loved-not when I spend time with him- but when I speak encouraging words to him. When I tell him “thank you” or “I appreciate you.” He feels loved when I notice the work he does for our family and tell him about it.

Tip 4 of this blog series is relatively simple but so important: Figure out your spouse’s love language. (And then speak it!)

There are 5 basic love languages.

The Five Love Languages:  

1. Quality Time. 

Notice I said quality time, not just time. For people whose love language is quality time, they feel loved when someone spends time with them without being distracted by something else.

2. Words of Affirmation. 

For those whose love language is words of affirmation, they feel loved when someone encourages them with their words.

3. Acts of Service.

This person feels loved when you do things for them-when you fix the sink or give them a massage, when you clean the house or do the laundry.

4. Physical Touch.

This isn’t just sex. It’s also hugs, kisses, cuddling, and various other ways someone might show affection.

5. Gifts.

Money isn’t the issue with this one. Someone whose love language is gifts doesn’t care if you spend a lot of money on them or a little. What matters to them is that you bought them a thoughtful gift.

If you don’t already have a pretty good idea what your spouse’s love language is, Gary Chapman has a great website with more information. His book, The Five Love Languages, is also very helpful.

Let’s talk. What is your primary love language? Is it the same or different than your spouse’s?

If you want to read more tips on marriage, go to the start of this series here and then click through to the more recent posts.